galavanting around Tuscany
waiting to get married
today i'm in Texas
watching Under the Tuscan Sun and missing Italy like crazy
waiting to go to work
what a difference two years makes, eh?
our anniversary is Monday
i started this blog during my third year of medical school
but didn't really post much until i was planning my wedding
and i think i skipped over much of our love story
several of you have asked about how we fell in love
so since i'm a big bucket of memories and love this week
i figured it was a perfect time to talk about it all
|our first photo together...i think. ugly Xmas sweater party circa 2007|
|spring break M1 year..breckenridge circa 2008|
|taking the Metra to Wrigley...first Cubs game 2008|
|clearly a huge turnout that day.|
|nick introducing me to California. meet the Redwoods.|
|oregon. hiking along the Deschutes.|
july 30, 2007
nick and I met on the first day of medical school...during orientation
i remember him because he had a surfer look to him...and it reminded me of my boyfriend
he says he remembered me because of my walk...and T&A (hey. he's a dude.)
we didn't talk much those first few weeks
but i remember running into him at the gym and we had a conversation about "Turkey Drop"
which was a phenomenon at our med school...
that if you came to school with a significant other,
you'd be broken up by Thanksgiving...hence the Turkey Drop
i didn't make it that long.
my boyfriend and i were trying to do long distance
he was in new york, i was in chicago
and the love just fizzled.
it wasn't just the distance
it just wasn't there.
october 13, 2007
i threw a birthday party for my roommate at our apartment
we had drinks at our place, then went to this fantastic dive bar called the Squirrel Cage
(with stuffed squirrels...in cages. and $1 PBR pitchers. class class class.)
nick had evidently learned i was single...
and noticed that i needed a new toothbrush when he used my bathroom at our apartment
so he used this as a conversation starter when we were at the bar
dental hygiene discussions. big hit with the ladies.
unfortunately, i don't remember any of the toothbrush conversation
because nick had bought us shots of Wild Turkey immediately before it began
the morning after the party
(i slept alone that night, by the way...get yo minds out the gutter)
i got an email from nick.
it was an article out of the Journal of the American Medical Association
about a female doctor who was reflecting on her struggle to balance medicine and motherhood
...pretty bold, right?
so far, we'd allegedly discussed a toothbrush and taken a shot of Wild Turkey together
and now he was bringing up the deep, stuff-of-life topics
i was intrigued, to say the least.
october 15, 2007
so the next morning, after class,
he brought me an envelope
which contained a letter...and a brand new toothbrush
then he asked me over for tea that night...so we could study for a Histology exam
i accepted...and the rest is history.
october 26, 2007
i fell in love with him in spite of myself
within two weeks of dating, i found myself imagining the rest of my life with him
our inside joke was that we kept saying "this just might work"
both of us knew it was crazy to feel so much so quickly
and it felt crazy to say it out loud...so we didn't
not for a while anyway.
i remember having this overwhelming sense of disbelief
i had come to Chicago to go to medical school
not to fall in love
it just felt too good to be true.
i was all business and no heart. (typical ER doctor)
but nick would tell you that he had started praying for love
right before coming to chicago for medical school
right before he met me.
his faith overshadowed my doubt.
january 3, 2008 (my birthday)
first time he said "i think i love you"
i said "you think? or you know?"
he said we needed to have some more fights before he knew for sure
i said "then i think i love you too"
we dated, both passionately and cautiously, for over two years before we got engaged
we were testing ourselves
each seeing how the other handled adversity
(what better forum for that than medical school?)
we learned how to deal with conflict
we both lived out our mutual belief that communication was paramount
in making our relationship work.
we laughed. a lot.
we saw marriage as a sacred next step
one that we would not enter into lightly
so we took our time getting ready for it.
to be continued...