me and the bachelorette. twins.
bathroom mirror self portrait. standard.
it just wouldn't have been complete without Elvis.
three pharmacists, a teacher, a high-risk-OB ultrasound technician...
and an ER doctor
annnnd a flower replica of a Monet. thanks Bellagio.
there you have it.
Vegas via my iPhone.
most of these are pictures i sent to my huz.
i spared you all a few of the rougher ones.
before our respective bachelor and bachelorette parties,
Nick and I talked a lot about trust and fidelity.
he brought it up mostly. he was nervous about me going to Vegas.
(this begs the question, what did HE do when he went to Vegas?? hmmm...)
we watch movies on a pretty regular basis,
and last week's pick was "The Last Kiss"
if you haven't seen it--spoiler alert--Zach Braff cheats on his pregnant girlfriend (Jacinda Barrett) with a very scandalous Rachel Bilson.
we've talked a lot about cheating in our five years (!) together.
which may seem odd to you
it seemed odd to me as it was happening. almost like...don't jinx it! we've got a good thing here! quit it with all your cheating talk!
but Nick has always been one to take the difficult topics by the horns.
best to have everything out in the open.
so we talked about it.
and how precious the trust we shared between us is, and just how catastrophic it would be to destroy that trust with a lie, or with infidelity.
and how long and hard we'd have to work to build it back.
over the years we've talked about how the recipe for disaster is always some underlying discontent, coupled with an opportunity presenting itself...and alcohol.
well, enter Vegas.
you most certainly have opportunities...and alcohol.
so Nick and i made sure to leave things on a good note.
no stirrings of discontent or unresolved conflicts before we left each other.
but still, when he kissed me goodbye at the airport,
he said "don't get drunk and have sex with a stranger!"
and i didn't.
not even close.
didn't even think about it.
to me, this seems a little obvious.
i would never cheat on my husband!
i just wouldn't!
or would i?
i'm not infallible.
i love my husband with a love so deep that it aches sometimes.
i treasure the trust we share
and i feel so safe with him. both physically and emotionally.
i would never choose to do anything that would take away from the us that is.
but things happen. lots of little things, at first.
and they chip away at what you've got
devaluing it and making it easier to throw it away
nobody thinks "i'm going to cheat on my husband someday" on their wedding day
but life happens
things change. and it's your job to make sure that they're changing in ways that strengthen you.
so all this to say
it's good to talk about it.
just so you remember who you are and where you stand.
especially before you go to Vegas.